Plant seeds before you're hungry

A farmer who doesn't have the foresight to plant his seeds before he's hungry will starve. Farmers must be proactive about their hunger given how long it takes for seeds to develop into edible crops.

Hunger isn't an issue for most of us. We experience hunger at a high frequency, so we've become pretty good at ensuring we don't starve. We're proactive about hunger when we stock up on groceries for a week or two, but we can also afford to be reactionary (at a greater financial cost) thanks to local food delivery apps.

It's not the frequency of a feeling that matters, it's the impact each feeling has on us that's important.

We might experience hunger multiple times per day but only feel something like loneliness once a week. Feeling lonely is infinitely more painful than mild hunger because of the way we self-identify with emotions. "I feel lonely" quickly becomes "I am a lonely person", but "I feel hungry" never becomes "I am a hungry person".

There are reactionary ways to deal with processing emotions, but what if we took a proactive approach?

Take a proactive approach to negative emotions by planting seeds everyday. Seeds represent potential, a future that may or may not develop into something of value. We plant seeds knowing that few will sprout, but the ones that do may grow into something significant that lasts years.

Planting seeds to be proactive about loneliness might involve arranging a weekly dinner with close friends, reaching out to a new person every week, or learning a new skill in a class-based environment where you're likely to meet new people with shared interests.

Being proactive is about taking action before you're faced with a problem. The more proactive you are about the things you don't want to experience, the higher your quality of life will become.

Start planting seeds before you're hungry.

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